Frequently asked questions
What is a cuckold couple?
Well as you can see from the dictionary, at the basic level, it is a couple where the female is physically unfaithful to the male. However, in recent times at least, it has come to mean the sexual fetish where both partners receive gratification from the female's sexual activity with a third party male, often referred to as the cuckold lifestyle.
What is the difference between a bull and a stud?
Our preference is to have a male who will be my wife's regular sexual partner, we refer to him as her bull. Couples where the female is more promiscuous, meeting a variety of different men, generally refer to them as studs.
Is it basically a MMF threesome?
Well it is but with important differences, whereas normally the guest male might take an equal or subordinate role to the husband in a cuckold setting the husband takes the subordinate role to the extent that he might have no involvement and certainly none unless asked.
What sort of men do you meet?
In our case, my wife likes very young fit men. We know couples that only meet men their own age and even a couple in their 20's who's preference is for men in their 50's. We feel a suitable man should have a basic understanding of cuckoldry most importantly.
Does it involve multiple partners?
Yes it can do.
How do you meet suitable men?
Registering on suitable swinger or contact sites is the best way we find. It can be problematic approaching acquaintances and inviting for sex. Though we did meet a man socially and progress to the bedroom, meeting him for 8 months or so afterwards. A large part of my enjoyment comes from spending a lot of time and effort to select my ideal bull. This is generally true of all ladies seeking the services of a bull. -Chrissie
Is the husband's humiliation an element?
Well it is implicit that the husband is not providing the sex that his wife requires. That she prefers her bull to her husband and makes him watch as she receives the sex she craves. Chrissie always compliments her bull on his love making and David loves to hear how much she is enjoying it. Some couples carry the humiliation to extremes.
What involvement does the husband have in proceedings?
The non-participation of the husband is considered an essential element by some couples even to the extent he may not be in the same room. Normally he keeps quiet and watches, only actively taking part if invited by the wife (not the other man). My husband for instance will normally masturbate which I find a terrific turn-on. Some wives will not even allow their husbands this relief! Generally the husband derives his pleasure from his wife's enjoyment. Picture taking for a lasting memento is also popular. Some couples (including us) like to make home movies!
Presumably then the wife is very much in control?
Yes it is a key element of cuckoldry that the wife is dominant. I decide what we do in a session, I have a very clear idea what my husband enjoys seeing me do, positions etc, and I try to make it as enjoyable for him as I can. - Chrissie
Is it a turn on for the wife being observed by her husband?
In my case very much so! I often have one-to-one meetings with my bull but they are never as enjoyable as sharing the experience with my husband. - Chrissie
Is it a turn on for the husband observing his wife?
Yes I love watching her enjoy herself with a handsome young man! I think sometimes she exaggerates how much she is enjoying the sex for my benefit! I usually masturbate while I watch sometimes ejaculating with my wife and partner watching. Other times my wife will give me oral to completion, it depends on our moods. - David
Does the husband have sex with his wife during a session?
Well for a lot of cuckold couples it is a big no no. In our case, although it is clearly understood he would never ask, I do on occasion feel the need to have my husband's penis inside me to finish off. We both consider it a more satisfying session (from the cuckolding viewpoint) if he does not but sometimes we just get carried away! - Chrissie
What about later?
Yes we always discuss a session in detail later when we are alone. What was good, what was not so good. - Chrissie
What problems can occur when you meet a new man?
Well the first time with a new partner is always stressful and not conducive to good sex! That goes for all of us. Men can often fail to achieve erection with a new partner and this is not helped with hubby in the same room! Generally sympathy and patience are the best cure and sending hubby to make a cup of tea! - Chrissie
What do you look for when selecting a man?
Well it has to be said that a big penis is a decided advantage but there are other considerations. For example the largest penis I have taken is over 10 inches and the smallest just 5 (he was wonderful too girls!). A pleasant non pushy manner and a great physique are all important too, as is an understanding of cuckoldry. - Chrissie
So the lady chooses the men?
Yes I have the final say, after all it's my vagina! More importantly the basic principle of cuckoldry is that the wife's sexuality is dominant and she should therefore choose her bull.
What is the profile of a "typical" cuckold couple?
In our experience normally have an affluent lifestyle, no children at home, middle forties upwards. There is a marked tendency for the husband to be some years senior to his attractive wife and to have a small penis. Possibly it goes without saying that the wife invariably has a very much higher sex drive than her spouse.
Why do men want to be bulls?
They find the scenario of satisfying a demanding wife in front of an inadequate husband a turn-on. It isn't unusual for wives to become very attached indeed to their bulls. We know of some that have even moved into the marital home - including my own!