Wednesday 13 January 2016
I always enjoy talking to cuckolds about their experiences and feelings. They always seem very keen to talk as if it helps them make sense of the conflicting emotions that goes with their chosen role.
Over Christmas we caught up with a couple we have known for over ten years and have been cuckolding for the last three. In many ways Mike and Julia are typical of many couples in the lifestyle, in their late forties, children left home, looking to explore their sexuality. Julia has a younger lover who takes her out on dates without Mike and visits their home to have sex with her in the marital bed observed by Mike.
Yet it may surprise many people that Mike is well-endowed as well as a skilled lover, which his wife has privately confirmed to me. He tells me he has no interest in other women and would never be unfaithful to his beautiful wife.
Like many cuckolds Mike remembers vividly the moment he became a full cuckold, he had a clear view of the moment of penetration as his wife was taken in the doggy position in front of him.
"The moment I became a proper cuckold was incredibly powerful seeing his penis slide slowly into Julia's wet vagina. Strange as I had already watched her kissing him and having her breasts fondled plus their oral sex foreplay, yet that didn't make me feel so completely a cuckold. I know they call it cuckold angst I felt diminished as a man by allowing him to take my wife while I meekly watched and ashamed that I was so aroused by the act, my penis was absolutely rigid. I also thought my wife would feel some contempt for me but that felt good to me, I have always worshipped her and felt slightly unworthy of her." he told me.
Interestingly Mike and Julia celebrate the anniversary of the cuckolding on an equal par with their wedding anniversary.
Happy New Year!
Sunday 10 January 2016
Thank you to all the visitors to our site and for all the feedback we have received, especially the constructive criticism! We hope 2016 will be a special year for those contemplating their first cuckolding experience as well as for more experienced couples.
We are pleased to welcome a new couple to the small group who make this site work, Danielle and her cuckold Martin. They have many years experience and are eloquent advocates of our lifestyle and it's benefits. We hope their knowledge and expertise will help take us to new levels after the difficulties we experienced last year.
Interesting ideas on sex education
Saturday 8 November 2014
Ann-Marlene Henning is a Danish neuropsychologist and sex counsellor who has some ideas on children's sex education which are bound to cause a horrified reaction. However I think they have much merit. She believes they should be shown pictures of ordinary people being sexual rather than internet type porn which she believes is too impersonal. She has a new book out, "Sex & Lovers: A Practical Guide" which I plan to add to my reading list. Her book outlines her theories and contains explicit photos of sexual acts. She believes sex is a normal part of life and should be discussed normally and sensibly. Well sadly, I can't see that happening any time soon!
I remember the sex education lessons we had to endure at school from rather embarrassed specialists brought in to inform us. Of course they couldn't tell us anything that would have been helpful or we would have all been out fucking like rabbits or so they thought. It was a total farce!
Making plans for initiating a new cuckold
Saturday 11 October 2014
The big day has arrived. Our main bedroom has been prepared for the ceremonial cuckolding to take place. I am very excited about what will happen at our house today and I genuinely believe it to be a very positive thing for their relationship and hope their big day will be just that for all involved.
We have arranged that Geoff and Jasmine will arrive at our house around 3pm then some have some relaxing drinks before they go to the bedroom with Peter. I'm greatly relieved when we hear their car pull into the driveway. Jasmine looks incredibly sexy in a tight dress cut very low and high heels. We all exchange greetings and Peter takes Jasmine in his arms giving her a passionate kiss before leading her through to the living room.
I take Geoff upstairs to show him where he will become a cuckold and to give him some last minute reassurance and advice. He has the demeanour of a man who is not happy but is resigned to his lot. We have placed a chair next to the bed so he can watch his cuckolding plus a camera to record events. He seems understandably apprehensive and I suggest that now might be a good time for him to undress so he can be naked when his wife and her new lover arrive. He looks rather confused so I remind him he needs to do as he's told today and he should take his clothes off. Personally I'm disappointed that we aren't all naked at this stage and have no intention of staying fully dressed, so I lead the way and start undressing and Geoff follows. He's embarrassed to be undressing in front of me but wisely decides things won't be getting any easier today and we are soon both naked. He has a really nice physique apart from his male organ being quite small. I reassure him again that his wife will feel only gratitude to him for making this experience possible for her and that when all is said and done it's only sex.
I return downstairs to find Peter and Jasmine still in a passionate embrace, momentarily I feel a pang of jealousy but I realise it is not appropriate. She is surprised to see I'm naked but Peter tells her I rarely wear anything around the house. I tell her it would be rather delicious if she went upstairs naked to join her husband. She looks interested by that idea and I ask her if she's ready and she nods. I give her a kiss and a hug, wish her luck and send them upstairs. The next two hours pass very slowly, occasionally I would go their bedroom door and could hear Jasmine's low moans of pleasure. At one point there were some loud screams but I have to control myself and not rush in. I feel I should be there offering advice but reassure myself that neither Geoff or Jasmine have fled the bedroom so things must be going fairly well.
Eventually, after things have been quiet for a while, my husband and I knock on the bedroom door and ask for entry with celebratory champagne. We're allowed in to see Peter and Jasmine with big smiles cuddled up together in the bed with Geoff along side in his chair, looking slightly forlorn, with a towel covering his genitals.
We are all slightly ill at ease together toasting the happy couple and I realise that perhaps this was not the good idea I hoped it would be. Geoff seems quite distraught so I decide to take him away and try and comfort him as best I can. For my part I feel quite strange and not at all how I expected, a reminder that we are unleashing some dangerous emotions. Alone with Geoff he tells me how difficult it was to watch the wife he loves submit to another man while at the same time feeling a great joy and relief that he had achieved his ambition to be a real cuckold. He was shocked too by how absorbed Jasmine became in the sex and also he tells me how humbled he felt by his inability to stimulate that response from her himself.
Geoff seems so down that I can't stop myself giving him a reassuring hug. It's quite enjoyable due to us still being naked and Geoff's little penis responds by becoming erect and I can't resist taking him in my hand. He's quite small even fully erect, not more than about four inches, but I'm surprised how nice his organ looks. It doesn't take much to put me in the mood and I start stroking him faster and faster. Suddenly he groans and sprays a small quantity of semen over me. Geoff agrees it will be our little secret but I'm slightly shaken.
We finished the day by all going out to dinner, all of us slightly unsettled in our different ways.
Making plans for initiating a new cuckold
Thursday 9 October 2014
The telephone has been red hot all week with discussions about our little get together today. Our friend's, Geoff and Jasmine, will be initiated into cuckoldry today by my live-in lover Peter. Though somewhat embarrassed that they will have their first sexual adventure at our house they can also see the many benefits.
My first suggestion that we should have a nude party and all watch as Jasmine cuckolds Geoff for the first time was, unfortunately, rejected by them. I'm disappointed but can understand they would like something a little more intimate.
When I met Jasmine earlier in the week and she admitted her misgivings about this big event in their marriage but that she was desperate for sex and keener than ever to start on the journey to a full cuckold marriage. I reassured her that it was, at the end of the day, just sex and that she would really enjoy herself.
Return visit to some friends
Saturday 4 October 2014
We go to dinner at Geoff and Jasmine's home - an invitation I was very keen to accept. Jasmine's husband has, following our last meeting, become very much more enthusiastic about becoming a full fledged cuckold. Jasmine is very excited that he is now fully committed and positive and very keen for more advice. Of course, we cuckolders, do love talking about it!
Over dinner we discuss many aspects of how the lifestyle works at a practical level. Eventually I suggest to Jasmine that my lover Peter is very attracted to her and would love to be her first and we would be thrilled if they would consummate the act at our house, we would help make it an occasion to remember.
Jasmine blushed deeply but I can tell she is keen. She is a little surprised I am happy to share my lover but I have lent him out to friends in need on several past occasions. I think as a bull he should be allowed to enjoy other women, it would be hypocritical of me otherwise. Though they are both surprised by my offer they are very interested and Jasmine tells me, when we are alone, that, though she is nervous, she is very keen to accept.
We leave them to think about our suggestion, I know this will be a big step for them as a couple.
Wanted: A more inspiring term than "cuckolding"
Thursday 2 October 2014
Back in the day "swinging" was called "wife-swapping" and what a grubby, seedy image that term conjured up! Then someone decided swinging sounded a lot more alluring and positive.
Though it will always be wife-swapping to some die-hard prudes, the term swinging is now firmly established and, to me at least, evokes images of tall elegant ladies in stockings and heels.
Our next task is to do a similar rebranding job on cuckolding! Yes it can be done and best we start now, suggestions please.
Dinner with friends
Saturday 20 September 2014
Though I have seen a lot of Jasmine recently I have never met her cuckold (as I now feel safe calling him) and as my lover, Peter, had an engagement to attend it seemed a good opportunity to have them over to dinner. Jasmine thinks it could be very helpful for our respective cuckolds to have a chat.
Jasmine's cuckold, Geoff, is nothing like we had imagined tall, slim, handsome and charming. He looks years younger than his age of 63, very attractive man I thought, even more of a shame he is unable to satisfy his lovely younger wife sexually, he's very small and also has trouble maintaining his erection. I know it has been difficult for them both.
When we entertain couples considering the lifestyle we always try and each chat to each of the others separately. Of course Jasmine and I are already confidantes but my husband takes Geoff aside and they have a long chat. Later I have a chat with Geoff on his own while my husband takes the opportunity to discuss his cuckold role with Jasmine, later she confides that he has reassured her on several points.
When I talk to Geoff at first he is quite embarrassed at first to be discussing his cuckold future with me but he has accepted, as prospective cuckolds do, that it will happen and soon he's talking freely. He tells me he feels his wife deserves a real man and he can't wait to see her accept a big penis, Jasmine has told him he has to be there when she makes him a cuckold. Of course I reassure him that they will both enjoy the experience and that his wife will feel only gratitude to him. I do really believe that.
Over dinner we discuss the lighter side of cuckolding and some of the dilemmas that need to be faced when a woman has two men in her life. Pleasingly Geoff and Jasmine seem quite at ease discussing their pending entry to the lifestyle.
After dinner we spend ages chatting till Peter comes home and I introduce him. Geoff and Jasmine seem thrilled but slightly embarrassed to meet Peter, knowing he is my bull, but soon seem quite relaxed as we are all so relaxed about our situation.
Afterwards in bed I ask Peter what he thinks of Jasmine, he is very attracted he tells me. I have a very interesting idea I tell him and I can tell by his smile he can guess what it is!
Lunch with a friend
Friday 22 August 2014
Jasmine has become a firm friend of mine and we have been spending quite a lot of time together over the last few months. Regular readers may remember she and her husband are contemplating their first big step into the cuckold lifestyle. Though I think it's safe to say it's when not if her husband becomes a cuckold from what she tells me! Only the want of a suitable man is standing in the way.
I'm on my own today so I've taken the opportunity to invite her over for lunch and a girls chat. She's very keen to make a start in the lifestyle and fulfil her husband's wish to see her being serviced by a "real man", however all the applicants have been disappointing so far. My advice to her is be selective and wait as long as you have until you're really sure. I'm very impressed by her sensible attitude to the lifestyle.
Over lunch we rather overdo the Chardonnay and the talk turns to men and sex. I hear all about her husband's tiny penis and premature ejaculation problem, poor man. Not unfamiliar complaints to my ears though! Then we move on to recount our favourite fantasies and Jasmine has some really wild ones.
Feeling rather horny after the talk about men I show her some pictures from our private family album, my husband loves a visual record, quite a lot of me naked with my various lovers. She loves the nude pictures of Peter, particularly the ones where he is aroused, he really does look spectacular and very male!
Feeling reckless and slightly drunk I then show her one of our home movies which she watches with her mouth wide open.
"You're so lucky to have such a gorgeous man" she tells me and I have to agree.
After she leaves an exciting idea occurs to me, which I will keep to myself for now.
In praise of younger men
Thursday 24 July 2014
I definitely enjoy having a young man in my bed. It's not just their lean fit bodies and lovely skin tone, though they are very much a plus, but their sheer enthusiasm for sex and how easily they are aroused.
I am a big fan of sex across the generation gap, not just for young men with older women but young women with older men. I remember when I was at college and started seeing a gorgeous man in his late thirties, the sex was a revelation! He was just so experienced and proficient, it took everything to a whole new level.
It's a shame that most people's first experience of sex is generally with someone who has no more idea about it than they do. What a brilliant idea it would be to pair up young virgins, male and female, with an older experienced partner who would train them in love making skills. Within a few years a whole new generation of happy fulfilled people, peace and tolerance abounds!
Actually you do hear stories, usually about the french and probably apocryphal, of an older female family friend being entrusted with a young man's sexual education. It would be an even better idea for young women!
Cuckolding is a natural lifestyle
Wednesday 25 June 2014
When I am in contact with couples who have been cuckolding for a while they nearly all tell me how surprised they are by how natural it now seems. Usually they add that they wish they had started years before. Sadly emphasis on some of the more lurid aspects of our lifestyle do put off many couples who have previously had an unadventurous sex life.
Society has conditioned us all to believe that cuckolding is outrageous and that a monogamous pairing should be the norm in life. Mainly, in my view, so that we would all be better wage slaves! For better or for worse we don't feel bound by these sexual restraints in the way we did years ago. Liaisons between young and old, in years gone by considered acceptable for older men but not older women, are now increasingly common place. Indeed many young men starting out with sex view older women as aspirational and even welcome an invitation to join a married couple in their bedroom.
Increasingly, particularly with sex, many older women are feeling they have missed out in their youth, they are still attractive and want to make up for lost time. Fortunately for them they now have the opportunities. Cuckolding is an attractive option that enables women to enjoy a rewarding sex life while maintaining and hopefully enhancing their existing long term relationship. Cuckold husbands love to see their wives well satisfied!
The ideal of the cuckold lifestyle?
Thursday 15 May 2014
From time to time I get requests, usually from men but increasingly from women, asking for advice on becoming a cuckold couple. I try not to give advice. I prefer to outline the options as I perceive them and let people make their own decisions.
I believe a cuckold relationship can be very rewarding and that most couples would benefit from giving it a try. Having said that it's no different from a conventional marriage, you will get out in proportion to what you put in. All three of you will need to work at it!
Here's my recipe for happy cuckolding. I believe that the wife should, with her husband's consent, take a long term lover to satisfy all her sexual needs. Once this happens the husband should not penetrate her ever, only her lover is permitted access. It's important that the wife involves her husband and he should be present, and naked, when intercourse takes place with her lover. He may give oral pleasure to either partner if called upon. Many cuckolds particularly enjoy post-coital cunnilingus.
A caring and sensitive lover will take the wife on a voyage of sexual discovery which will enhance her relationship with her cuckold. Exploring the three-way dynamic of wife to lover to cuckold is the crux of a cuckold relationship. It surprises many couples how natural it feels even the first time they do it. Each participant is searching for their own fulfilment in their own way, the cuckold and the lover are not rivals but seeking a different type of satisfaction.
Watching his wife receive an intense sexual experience is deeply emotional for the cuckold, equally so for the wife to have her cuckold there with her.
You're only as old as you feel.........
Saturday 26 April 2014
I have received an interesting letter from a lady whose husband would love to be cuckolded. She is eager to do so too, which is a great, but she's 64 and wonders how successful she will be in finding a regular bull aged over 45.
I know at least 5 ladies over 60 in the lifestyle, though they don't all admit to being that old! They all have younger, in two cases much younger, lovers. Obviously there has to be an attraction but I see no reason why younger men should not succumb to the allure of a sophisticated older women. From her description she sounds very attractive. I have told her I think it's wonderful she is interested in taking a younger lover and she could go for an even younger man. I have suggested a good website that should reassure her.
Sadly many who would greatly benefit from the lifestyle don't have the self confidence to give it a try. There's nothing like sex with a younger man to boost a woman's self-esteem!
Finding a Bull
Thursday 24 April 2014
Many husband's believe that once they convince their wife to try cuckolding them that it's going to be non stop bedroom fun from then on. Unfortunately it isn't that easy to find a suitable man who knows what is expected from him and can also deliver.
Approaching social acquaintances surprisingly does often work but obviously can be problematic. Swinger contact sites are probably the best method. The larger ones normally have special interest groups such as bondage, latex (mmmmm) etc and these days you would expect to find a cuckolding group. The chatroom can be a good place to make friends with other similarly inclined couples and get some guidance. However couples can expect to be swamped by messages from single males who often know nothing about cuckolding or who are just plain timewasters. My main hate is men who say "I live close and can come round in half an hour", I know I'm not alone in this. Of course there are those who agree to meet but just don't turn up.
Most contact sites have some sort of feedback/validation system which enables other members to leave comments about those they have met. It can be a very valuable way to see who can genuinely be relied upon to do what they say. Don't be pressurised into meeting before you feel ready, take your time. Have social only meetings and get to know your potential bull. Genuine bulls will understand your concerns. Happy hunting!
Lunch with a possible new lady
Wednesday 9 April 2014
Some nice spring sun today and I met a very nice lady for lunch. Jasmine is a lovely lady of 49 with whom I have been exchanging emails for a few months now, so it seemed a good idea to finally meet and chat face to face.
A while back Jasmine's older husband confessed his long-held desire for her to cuckold him, much to her surprise and shock. To her credit, she took this on board and has been very positive about possibly joining the lifestyle. When she first contacted me she was so full of questions I wondered if she was genuine! I never like to recommend cuckolding to people, as it's quite a responsibility to bear if things go wrong, rather I like to stress the positive aspects whilst not neglecting the negatives.
Jasmine seems well grounded with a down to earth attitude to sex and has a good relationship with her potential cuckold who can hardly wait to see her in action. She tells me they are hoping to find a much younger man for a long term relationship and that she would ideally like to experience a big penis. Apparently her husband has a very small penis, something she realised after several months of studying men's profile pictures on the contact sites they use. We both agree that the uncircumcised penis holds more appeal for playing with though the cut penis looks so lovely and rude with the big red head on display.
I am unable to offer much beyond the usual advice on their search to find a suitable male to join them. Not surprisingly, as she is very attractive, Jasmine and her husband have had many approaches including more than the usual quota of timewasters and idiots with no idea about cuckolding. A great shame as I would love to see them off to a good in the lifestyle. Not for the first time I wish there was a dedicated cuckolding matchmaker site with only serious players, some hope!
Cuckolds in chastity
Friday 28 March 2014
Chastity devices for men are a growing market in the adult toys business, many women are discovering the delight of having their man safely under lock and key.
From what I hear it seems the idea usually comes from the cuckold, or sometimes the bull, but women seem happy to play along and grow to enjoy being the key holder! I think most cuckold couples try it at some stage.
The cage that covers the penis is probably the most popular device and many cuckold couples own at least one. Personally I find the plastic variety lacking in charm. My husband has a lovely stainless steel cage that we bought mail order from Hong Kong for 28 dollars and looks really stunning on him.
You can spend a serious amount of money on some devices and obviously the correct size, either way, is vitally important to ensure comfort as well as to look nice. Specialist sites such as Chastity Mansion offer good advice from experienced chastity enthusiasts.
On the other hand it seems cruel to allow your cuckold no relief while the bull takes you to heaven!
How young is too young for a bull?
Tuesday 11 March 2014
I have received several messages from a young man, just 23 years old, very keen to be a bull for older couples and asking for advice on getting started. He seems well qualified, tall, handsome, long thick penis and I wish him well but wonder if one so young can have the necessary confidence and authority for this specialised role. Apparently he is quite experienced sexually but only one-on-one with his girlfriends. Like many his age he's interested in older women and thinks cuckolding has appeal.
Many of us in the lifestyle have yielded to the entreaties of young keen men with gorgeous bodies to let them show us what they can do only to find that first night nerves result in them being unable to achieve a viable erection. Of course the resulting stress makes matters worse and the situation is very distressing for all parties!
Bulls come in many varieties and ages though many couples enjoy the younger man many prefer men their own age or even older. The two necessities for a bull are an understanding of cuckoldry and the ability to deliver a great performance. I wish my young friend well and have suggested he start by swinging and doing some straight forward threesomes, helping the husband, and see how it goes before offering his services as a fully fledged bull. I have given him some tips and really hope he does well, he is going to keep in touch. Maybe some time in the future I will be recommending him as a bull.
How to get your wife to cuckold you
Wednesday 19 February 2014
This is on of the most common questions men ask and the most difficult to answer. If you are asking the question it does tend to presuppose that your partner is not totally comfortable discussing sexual matters. Obviously you will need to proceed slowly to convince your lady but once the seed is sown it will grow with nurturing. A good start is to initiate a discussion about people you each fantasise about enjoying intercourse with and what you would like to do with them.
It is not unknown for wives to take years to be convinced but be reassured more women than ever before are waking up to the enjoyment a cuckolding scenario can give them. Women may start as reluctant cuckoldresses but when they start enjoying their new found power their enthusiasm can be unrestrained.
Cuckolding the fastest growing lifestyle interest?
Friday 7 February 2014
I have recently read, from several sources, that cuckolding is the fastest growing of all the sexual lifestyle pursuits. I have no trouble believing that as it fulfils a definite need, in my opinion. It is widely recognised that are large proportion of men fantasise about their women enjoying sex with another man and it's becoming clear that many are keen to be cuckolded for real. What is surprising to many is that women are so interested in embracing the lifestyle. Though many woman are at first horrified by the idea they soon come to realise the many advantages the shift in power within the relationship confers on them.
I have also read that cuckolding is not a sexual fetish, as I have sometimes called it, but a lifestyle choice. I am convinced and stand corrected but as with a lot of terminology it isn't important what you call it so long as you enjoy it.
Good cuckolding adult movies wanted!
Friday 24 January 2014
Why is it so difficult to find some good cuckolding adult movies? We were looking the other day for something to get us in the mood and it seems there isn't much around. Sure there are some American movies available but they all seem to miss the finer points of our fetish and are rather extreme for our taste.
If you have read UK Cuckolds Blog on our links page, we think his story of the corruption of Mrs T would make a super movie. I'm sure there are many wives who would love the treatment Mrs T received from Staffs Bull and his huge cock. It could be exactly what would be cuckolds need to persuade their hesitant wives to take the plunge!
Hope to have a nice bull blog for us
Sunday 12 January 2014
We have recently been exchanging emails with a very nice gentleman who enjoys the bull role and is currently providing his services to a couple we know very well. Very much hoping he will write for us on at least a semi regular basis as we feel his insights could be interesting and reassuring for couples considering the cuckold lifestyle.
It has been our hope for sometime to find a good bull to blog for us and we're also hoping to find a cuckold husband to share his thoughts.
Thursday 9 January 2014
I have just read that women should all immediately stop shaving their pubic hair. This comes from a young woman of the feminist persuasion. Apparently we all just responding to male pressure to look the way they find attractive which is obviously wrong! Having shaved down below for nearly 20 years I can tell her that I do it because, in my opinion, it looks nicer, feels nicer and I find sex more enjoyable. I know I am not alone in this. I also expect my lovers to be similarly smooth.
We vacation every year at a family oriented naturist resort in France and nearly everyone regardless of age or gender favours the smooth look. I consider myself a feminist but surely there are more important issues involved than personal grooming! I don't see the shaggy look returning any time soon but shaving seems so universal now that inevitably there will be those that want to be different and who really cares?
Happy New Year
Sunday 5 January 2014
Happy New Year to all cuckold couples and bulls! Whether you are old hands or contemplating your first step into the lifestyle we hope 2014 will be the year your dreams all come true!
Enhancement to the site
Thursday 24 October 2013
Apologies for not posting for so long this has been due to our web designer making some much needed internal changes to the website. Yes, it does look just the same but we now have a solid foundation from which to progress the site. This development stage is now complete and we are now able to look at enhancing the site, when we have decided how we wish to progress.
Cuckolding is a minority interest taking society as a whole but more and more couples are becoming open to new sexual experiences and are discovering it's appeal. There are a vast range of reasons why men and women are interested in cuckolding experiences and we hope to add our own views through this site.
Cuckolding, give it a try
Thursday 1 August 2013
I do think all relationships reach a point where they could benefit from a spell of good cuckolding! Ladies, give your husband a break from his marital duties and bring in a specialist to take over. I suggest a keen younger man who can make a regular commitment to join the marriage partners. Your husband will see you with fresh eyes and appreciate your sexuality all the more after seeing you enjoy your new bull.
Husbands, you need to discover your inner cuckold and you will find observing your wife having intercourse very erotic and she will find your presence reassuring. You should masturbate with enthusiasm which will be a big turn on for your wife especially if she has never before have seen you seriously self-pleasure. If all goes well your wife will have a memorable experience and be grateful for your selflessness in allowing her to explore her sexuality.
Guidance for prospective bulls
Friday 26 July 2013
I thought I would offer a little guidance to prospective bulls, men considering an approach to a cuckold couple.
Firstly cuckold couples are normally not looking for a one-off meeting, they want a man who will regularly have sex with the cuckold's wife in an ongoing relationship which includes friendship as well as great sex. You will be taking over the husband's sexual duties within the marriage so you will need to be confident as well as a more than competent sexual performer.
The husband will take a cuckold role which often, but not always, includes him watching his wife and her lover perform together. The other man can be described as a lover, boyfriend or playmate.
Some cuckolds are slightly bi and enjoy giving oral to the lover to prepare him for intercourse with their wife. This act of submission can be very stimulating for all three! Sometimes the cuckold may guide her lover's penis into her vagina or perform post intercourse oral on her, her lover or both. Naturally these acts are voluntary and only take place if all are in agreement.
Compose your initial message to a couple with great care, always remember that a couple comprises two people. Most have a very clear idea what they are looking for so do not be offended if that isn't you. Tell them as much as you can about yourself as a person include physical details such as build, height and penis. Include your interests, leisure as well as sexual.
They will also be interested in your previous sexual experience and current relationship status. Some couples will not meet attached men while others view a man being in a stable relationship as a positive attribute and are non-judgemental. After a positive first approach it is normal to swap face pictures.
Good luck! The lifestyle needs more good bulls, so please persevere - there are many different couples out there, looking for different things in a bull, one of them could be a perfect match.
Some garden frolics as temperatures soar
Sunday 14 July 2013
The hottest day of the year so far and, as we have a secluded garden, we're all having a naked day in the sun!
My only adornment is a silver chain around my right ankle indicating my status in the lifestyle and that I have my husband's full approval. At least I hope that's what it indicates, opinions seem to differ on this one! No matter it looks very nice.
I always enjoy being naked with my two special men. My lover's young muscular body with his large penis and my husband's slimmer build and small penis are both attractive to me in different ways. I know they enjoy admiring my big breasts freed from constraint too.
As always we start off determined to enjoy social nudity without sex rearing it's head but we fail miserably again. Around mid-afternoon my lover can't resist fondling my breasts and in an instant he's as stiff as a poker. My husband is sent to fetch a large towel to lay on the ground and a camera so he can occupy himself taking a few snaps for the family album. When he returns Peter has me spread eagled on the patio table and getting busy applying his tongue to my slit. Following a lengthy oral each way session my husband suggests reverse cowgirl on the towel laid out on the grass.
As I lower myself onto Peter's manhood whilst my husband watches camera in hand capturing the moment I think how lucky I am to have two wonderful men.
A hard bull is good to find
Sunday 30 June 2013
As everyone involved in our lifestyle knows good bulls are not easy to find. We hear stories of men who sounded just perfect turning up and performing inadequately or being unable to rise to the occasion. To be sure it is not a role that many men are naturally suited to. Most cuckold couples have endured a great many disappointments before meeting their Mister Right.
If a wife is quite experienced sexually she may find it enjoyable and worthwhile to train a suitable man to be her bull. Working together to overcome any performance anxieties he may experience joining a cuckold scenario for the first time. Inexperienced wives normally find this daunting and prefer to find a well-recommended bull to guide them through their first time.
The lot of the cuckold
Saturday 15 June 2013
The member of a three-way relationship who is generally considered to have the worst of all worlds is, I'm sure you won't be surprised to hear, the cuckold.
However the generally perceived view is, in our opinion, erroneous. Most cuckolds we come into contact with tell us how much they enjoy the role and how much pride they take from having a highly sexual wife who can hold her own with a top sexual performer guest male. Commonly they tell us how much pleasure they get from seeing their wives in action and how they love seeing them reach orgasm several times with their lovers.
Some cuckolds tell us, and probably it is true of many more, how relieved they are not to have to try satisfying a demanding woman. They have relinquished their sexual role to a more masculine male and eased into their cuckolded destiny.
A good friend is now regularly cuckolding
Tuesday 28 May 2013
Enjoyed a nice relaxing lunch with my friend Carolyn, see earlier posts, who tells me all about her new lover. Certainly cuckolding seems to agree with her, she is looking stunning. She also has a new confidence about her now that her sexuality is not repressed and her naturally dominant role is to the fore.
She is very fond of her new man who has become a regular guest in the marital bed. He and her husband also get on well and the three of them go out together. She tells me how good it feels to now have a regular sex life with a younger man and all about his rampant penis! Her husband too has settled naturally into his cuckold role and has even begun to get actively involved in a small way, doing those small tasks that cucks can help with.
I have asked her again to write a small piece for our site as I feel she exemplifies our ideal of cuckoldry enhancing a marriage.
Our domestic situation
Wednesday 22 May 2013
It has occurred to me I should perhaps clarify my domestic arrangements for new readers. My young lover moved in with my husband and I some time ago. He sleeps with me in the marital bed and my husband has moved into a spare bedroom. It goes without saying that, as a good cuckold wife, I don't have sex with my husband now I have a regular lover. I am totally at the disposal of my lover and sexually committed to him, we make love without condoms.
I love being sexual with my lover whilst my husband watches us and we like to have one good session a week that we can all really enjoy. Naturally we make love frequently and our bedroom door is always open should my husband, as he often does, wish to observe us. He knows that Peter's virility together with his big penis provide me with a level of pleasure he cannot hope to match and he is pleased as well as proud of me.
In praise of younger men
Sunday 28 April 2013
I make no secret of the fact that, when it comes to great sex, I am a big fan of the younger man. When I say younger, I mean 19 upwards, for which I have received some criticism from some!
I firmly believe there is a natural attraction between young and old. In a primitive society where mortality was high and survival depended on more babies being produced, the older woman of proven child producing capability would be naturally drawn to the younger virile men.
I also think men growing up learn most things in life from women, what is more natural than that should also learn love making? None of the young men I have enjoyed has ever said anything derogatory about the experience, usually expressing their gratitude.
Swinging leads on to cuckolding often
Wednesday 24 April 2013
Many couples, possibly most, begin practicing cuckolding after starting their sexual adventures on the swinging scene. This is what happened in our case.
It is often said, and most consider it true, that the women are the key participants in swinging. They decide who they will and won't meet. It is all about female sexual empowerment contrary to what many people outside the lifestyle believe. A partner swapping foursome is, when all is said and done, two men cuckolding each other.
For many it is a natural progression to then meet single males and enjoy an experience aimed primarily at the female's sexual pleasure.
How to find a suitable bull
Wednesday 3 April 2013
Once a couple decide they want to take their first step with cuckoldry they inevitably find themselves in the predicament of where to find a suitable man. Usually the would-be cuckold husband can't wait for his lovely wife to let him play the role he craves and she is only too eager to enjoy a new lover, however they can't find the right man. Frustrating to say the least and it is likely to be a long slow process whichever route you choose.
I think we all know the pitfalls of finding a bull online but many couples, including ourselves, have very successfully introduced men they have met socially into their relationship. Often relationships that have started this way go on to be very long term and rewarding. You will need to take your time in subtly conveying to your prospective bull that you would welcome his advances and the prospective cuckold needs to convey that he is happy to share his wife. How long this takes will vary and needs to be finely judged.
My friend cuckolds her husband for the first time
Sunday 24 March 2013
I have just heard from my friend Carolyn, see 9 March, who tells me that their fantasy is no longer just that - yesterday she made her husband a cuckold.
She tells me her lover proved to be an enthusiastic and skilled performer, his long penis venturing where no man had gone before! Though his incessant thrusting has left her a little sore, their first meeting was a great success. The meeting was enjoyed by them all, especially Carolyn who is ecstatic to have now experienced a real man making love to her.
I was delighted to hear they coupled in the marital bed with her husband observing - apparently he is still a little shell shocked, serves him right! She is already planning their next meeting. Full marks to her understanding husband and I'm thrilled to hear of such a positive outcome.
Lunch with prospective cuckolders
Saturday 9 March 2013
We enjoyed a very pleasant lunch with a couple who have been very close friends going way back. They are fully aware of our unconventional lifestyle and have often expressed their desire to have a similar arrangement. I know that the lady, who is age 52, is confident she can please a much younger man and is very keen to try. Her husband who is about 12 years older, dotes on her, and is more than happy for her to have a "special friend" to visit.
Needless to say, I have done everything to encourage the lady to cuckold her willing man but it has all remained an agreeable fantasy. So I was happy to hear that they are in contact with a handsome man of 28 and a meeting looks very likely to take place. Privately, the lady tells me that she can't wait for her husband to witness her receiving the sex that she feels in need of and deserves. Her supportive husband feels he can't do his gorgeous wife justice and it's time to step aside for a better man. Wonderful!
I wish them well, have asked to be updated with developments and for them to write about their experiences for us.
Men, talk to your wives!
Saturday 2 March 2013
A great many men fantasise about seeing their wife or girlfriend enjoying a sexual experience whilst they take a voyeur role. However they are often reluctant to confide this to their partner. Many cuckolding couples we know tell us they wish now that they had introduced a third party male much earlier in their relationship. So I suggest men that you pluck up courage and tell your lady what you would like her to do, you may be pleasantly surprised by her reaction. At the very least the seed will have been planted!
A gentleman's endowment
Thursday 14 February 2013
Whenever I get together with female friends who share my interest in sex, after a few glasses of wine, the subject of penis size comes up. Generally in connection with the unusual proportions, in either direction, of a gentleman one of us is currently enjoying intimacy with.
Probably it will not be a big surprise that the usual consensus is that, all things being equal, big is decidedly better. However it has to be said that all things are never going to be equal. Though I have to say that I find the sight of a well equipped man in a state of arousal absolutely stunning, and having had three daughters I feel I need some extra girth, I have on occasion enjoyed some outstanding experiences with quite modestly endowed men.
Couples and male friends with benefits
Saturday 26 January 2013
There is a broad spectrum amongst those of us who enjoy the cuckolding lifestyle. Regular visitors will know that my husband and I enjoy a laid-back, easy going and nothing too extreme version of the lifestyle. The majority of the couples we know share this approach. It doesn't seem strange or unusual to us that a committed couple have close male friends.
If everyone's happy it just seems very natural for this to extend to a sexual role. It has to be said that this triangle can cause problems for those whose relationship is built on a rocky base but if you have thought things through then exploring the three way dynamic can be very rewarding for all, as many couples are now discovering.
Cuckolding on the rise
Monday 21 January 2013
All sorts of people are attracted to the cuckolding fetish, for a great variety of reasons. Some couples try cuckolding to enrich an already active sex life. For others they have had to admit that things are not working with the sexual side of their relationship and the decision to invite a new male to join their relationship is not an easy one, particularly for the husband.
The internet has of course brought a greater awareness of all aspects of sexuality to a mass audience. Certainly some of the enthusiastic cuckold couples we know freely admit that without the internet they would never have found the courage to try. The influx of new blood has definitely been beneficial to our little pastime and the fetish has definitely lost a lot of the sordid air it once had. Though many participants would not want their neighbours and colleagues to know what they do, they are not generally ashamed of it either.
There are some very nice well behaved men around who find the bull role attractive, so it's got to be good for us all!
Happy New Year
Saturday 5 January 2013
Happy new year to all you hot wives, cuckolds and bulls!
As always I wonder what changes this year will bring. Sadly, I feel the chances are that I will be seeking a new bull before the year closes. Part of me relishes the challenge, even having reached my mid-fifties I still feel I can attract a gorgeous younger man. However having been in a stable relationship for more than 2 years I don't look forward to all the nonsense that is part and parcel of finding a new lover.
I have decided to be positive and that it will all be for the best.
Breakfast in bed
Sunday 29 July 2012
My lover was extra horny today and we had a super session when we woke up. Following which my naked husband brought us breakfast in bed.
We're all quite excited about our holiday in two weeks time, the three of us are heading off to France where we are renting a chalet at a naturist resort.
We don't want to shock some of our friends!
Saturday 23 June 2012
Our unusual domestic circumstances seem so natural to my husband and I that we tend to forget that many people, including many of our friends, would be aghast.
I have confided to three close female friends that we are a cuckold couple, two of whom have since initiated the cuckold scenario in their own relationships, the third I suspect would very much like to!
We also have have a wide circle of friends from our days exploring the swinging scene who enjoy cuckolding.
Several of my married female friends have lovers that their husbands are unaware of. I feel it's sad that their husbands can't enjoy this side of their sexuality and it must be harmful to their relationship.
It takes three to tango (for us)
Sunday 3 June 2012
I cannot state too often how lucky I am to have such a wonderful husband. He allows me to enjoy fantastic sex with another man and relishes his role as the cuckold.
Extreme humiliation of the cuckold is a no-no for us but nevertheless all participants are well aware that the bull has taken over the cuckolds marital duties because of his superior sexual prowess.
The psychology of our relationship with the bull is very important to us as a cuckold couple and I am thankful my two men have a mutual regard. I do require that my husband be present when I make love with my bull and he is enthusiastic about watching us even though he is totally ignored throughout.
Starting off in the cuckold lifestyle
Friday 18 May 2012
Many more women than you might imagine are interested in experiencing a cuckold scenario. To some it's a secret fantasy, others are seeking the sex that's missing from an otherwise good marriage. Of course one thing all us cuckoldresses (and wannabe cuckoldresses) have in common is we all want to experience a really top notch bull. Handsome, a good penis is always welcome, a fantastic sexual performer plus, importantly, just the right touch when dealing with the cuckold. Not an easy package to find.
Even experienced couples get caught out. For couples new to the fetish achieving a positive first time, for both partners, is a particular worry. Tragically a less than happy first experience has meant an early end to many couples' cuckolding adventures. Naturally every woman wants her first cuckolding experience to be magical - truly fantastic sex with the lover of her dreams, multiple orgasms while her shocked husband looks on knowing he can never match the experience - this is what cuckoldry is all about for women. She shows her gratitude to her cuckold for making her sexual fulfilment possible. However if it doesn't work out that way the disappointment can be insurmountable. We particularly hear a lot of complaints of insensitive treatment towards the cuckold by inexperienced bulls with an incomplete understanding of the cuckold role.
I am often asked for advice on finding a bull and I tell couples to wait until they are sure they have found the right man, however long it takes. Make sure he understands our fetish and will play his part. Alternatively personal recommendation can't be beaten.
Website tune up
Saturday 12 May 2012
Our web designer has finished some fine tuning to our site. We have a responsive site and it should render itself according to the platform you use to view it.
From a smart phone through to a desktop computer we hope the site will be easy to view.
A nice new couple interested in cuckolding
Saturday 14 April 2012
A very pleasant morning talking to a lovely couple looking to join our lifestyle. Of course they like the concept immensely, it's just the reality that worries them! Naturally my husband and I did our best to reassure them but the lady especially was very concerned about finding a man who wouldn't disappoint. Not an unreasonable concern.
It's always nice to meet such a "normal" couple who have decided for all the usual reasons to try cuckoldry. At one time the wife would have engaged in a secret affair causing much damage to their relationship. Much better that she explores her sexuality with her husbands support. We have the internet to thank for making this possible.
We told them about the many couples we know of that are carrying on very rewarding cuckold relationships and gave them the run down on finding and selecting suitable men. We didn't lead them to believe that it would be easy as we know from our own experience what a minefield it can be particularly for the inexperienced. We wish them well and are hoping for progress reports.
Bull is a term that causes concern
Friday 17 February 2012
I have had some messages from a lady concerned about the term "bull" with it's connotations. I quite like the term with it's overtones of power and sexuality.
However many women who want to cuckold their willing husbands don't want to see them totally humiliated by their lover. I have reassured the lady that the term "boyfriend" can be just as appropriate.
It is an integral part of our fetish that the husband is made to feel inadequate but we need to set limits on this before we admit a third party male to the bedroom, that is for sure. Though I think we all like and need a degree of firmness from the bull to make the scenario work.
Saint Valentine's Day
Tuesday 14 February 2012
Valentine's Day! Six cards not too bad at my age and two had lewd suggestions on them.
Plus got flowers from my husband and my lover!
Some negative comments received
Friday 3 February 2012
We've had some persist mail critical of the role of cuckoldry in our life. Well this is the 21st century and we're not hurting anyone, as far as we're aware, and only give advice when it is requested. We're not saying you should do as we do but if you want to we'll tell you how you can go about it.
I do love my husband but as much as I love him I don't let him cut my hair or make my clothes. I go to someone with the skills to do those jobs in a way that pleases me. So why should sex be different?
My lover moves in!
Saturday 15 October 2011
A milestone in our three-way relationship this weekend! After weeks of discussion Peter, my young lover, has officially taken up residence with us. He has moved his belongings into our second largest bedroom though he will share my bed as he normally does when staying with us. My husband will sleep in the spare room. These have been our normal arrangements when Peter stays over as he has been doing most weekends anyway.
It will be interesting to see how things develop in our relationship. I can't believe it won't be for the better as we all get on so well in the world we have made for ourselves. We tell anyone who asks that Peter is a distant relative and I think this is believed.
Cuckolding for mature women
Saturday 30 July 2011
Once again I am shocked to find that, despite my resolve to do so, I haven't kept my blog up to date. Too busy with sex and advising other couples who either already enjoy or want to try our lifestyle!
A lot of people have difficulty understanding that a mature woman can love her husband but still enjoy regular sex with a young virile man with the complete approval of her husband.
I'm lucky to have such an enlightened husband who encourages me to enjoy my sexuality, we believe it has made our relationship stronger. More and more mature women are realising that there are alternatives to either abstinence or having a secret affair when their husband becomes unable to perform in the bedroom, for whatever reason.
A chat to prospective cuckolders
Sunday 27 February 2011
Entertained a very nice couple to afternoon tea. As you may know we offer counselling to couples thinking of exploring our lifestyle. We don't claim to be able to make them happy but we share our personal experiences and give some practical advice where we can. Sometimes when we feel so real empathy with a couple we arrange a social meeting and a chat.
Geraldine and Phillip probably fit the profile we see with many couples. She is a very attractive 47 year old brunette and her husband is a 59 year old successful businessman. Like us, they began swinging on an occasional basis, then refined this to meeting younger males for the lady's pleasure. Not difficult to see that Geraldine is the driving force behind all this! Like we did they are now hoping to have a full time exclusive arrangement with a young man.
We all got along extremely well after some initial nervousness! There was some diffidence until we broached the subject of sex, then they were full of questions, which we did our best to answer. On these occasions we make sure that we find an excuse at some point for the husbands to talk alone while myself and the wife do likewise.
Geraldine had some very frank questions to ask me about our arrangement, how it works and how the three of us feel about it. As well as the practical side of coping with the sexual demands of a much younger vigorous male! Meanwhile the husbands discussed whatever men discuss at times like these!
I remember when we started our voyage of sexual exploration what a relief it was to talk to people with similar desires and G & P certainly seem to find our advice useful and promised to keep us informed how they get on.
A foursome with a friend and her bull
Saturday 30 October 2010
Spend all morning preparing myself for what I hope will be a memorable afternoon of love making! My friend Sue is coming over, plus our mutual bulls, and we will hopefully each have our first dual penetration.
Sue and her husband arrive at midday and after a light lunch we pack our, much put upon, husbands off to play golf. We wait with much anticipation for the boys to arrive.
Peter arrived first and I introduced him to Sue, who was clearly very much impressed, and we chatted until Tom arrived. Well once we were altogether we lost no time in getting down to business!
Sue was clearly much taken with Peter and they were soon stripping each other naked. Meanwhile Tom and I were rediscovering each other. I trained him in the art of love and I was interested to see how he would perform. We both undressed, I left my black stockings on of course.
His six inch penis seemed teensy after Peter's huge member which Sue was now on her knees sucking with gusto. Tom went to work on my breasts before sitting me on the sofa, lifting my legs and applying his expert tongue to my throbbing clit. Seeing us, Sue came and sat down beside me and spread her legs apart. Peter lost no time in kneeling down and licking her glistening pussy.
We had agreed that Peter with his large cock would take the vagina whilst Tom, much to his delight, would take the back door. Peter lay down on the floor with Sue giving his cock a last suck to ensure he was fully hard while I applied plenty of lube to her back passage. Sue then mounted Peter and slowly began to ride him. Meanwhile I gave Tom's cock a suck before fitting his condom and applying some lube to his shaft. He then knelt and deftly slid into Sue's back passage up to the hilt. Well the boys heaved away for ten minutes while Sue screamed with pleasure.
I could hardly wait for the boys to recover so I could be "serviced" and fortunately it didn't take long! Soon I knew the delight of having two rampant men inside me - extremely rude! Can't wait for the next time.....
I loose my (back-door) virginity
Saturday 23 October 2010
I experience back door love! Finally lost my anal virginity and to my long suffering and somewhat reluctant husband. My verdict? Interesting, not unpleasant, will do again, next Saturday to be exact!
My closest friend Sue and I have arranged a meet with our lovers next Saturday whilst our husbands play golf.
Sue and her husband are old friends of ours, we met during our first swinging days, they have since followed us into the cuckold thing and she loves to humiliate her husband over his tiny (four inch) penis. Sue's bull, Tom, used to be mine until he got a bit possessive but that's another story!
Well Sue has decided she wants a dual penetration, one man in her vagina and the other in her anus, and has asked for the loan of my bull Peter. No way was I letting him go alone, so I'm second in the queue for a DP and quite looking forward to it now my husband has broken me in!
Must keep blogging...
Saturday 9 October 2010
I resolve to keep this blog going from now on! Just need some sexy fun to write about....
My bull stays for the weekend
Monday 28 June 2010
Recovering from an exhausting weekend! Peter, my bull, stayed the weekend and he was particularly rampant even for him. I must admit that after not having seen him for three weeks I did encourage him. We were all so horny that we made for the bedroom early on Saturday afternoon.
Peter is just 24, very well endowed and I can't keep my hands (or mouth) off him! I love the thrill I feel when I take out my breasts and instantly his manhood starts to point at the ceiling. I made it very clear to him (and my husband) how much I had missed him, telling him how I loved his big cock and the feel of it inside me. All proceedings were videoed by my husband for future enjoyment.
Peter spends the night in the marital bed with me when he stays with us while my husband sleeps in the spare room. So we started Sunday morning off in a very pleasant manner following which my husband brought us breakfast in bed.
After Sunday lunch it has become a sort of tradition that we all sit down to watch the previous day's home movie on the big screen TV! This involves all being naked and masturbating, in my case using dildos and vibes. We have a competition to see you can abstain from sexual contact the longest. However proceedings soon descended into an orgy when Peter began giving me oral. Soon he was making love to me in the doggy position, my favourite, while I rewarded my long suffering husband with a blow job.
An all together very pleasant weekend! We are now frantically now preparing for our annual trip to south west France where he have a chalet in a naturist resort. Peter, naturally, will be coming with us. He is a little nervous however not having experienced social nudity before but I think he is looking forward to perusing the naked women. Of course there will be plenty of sex too I'm sure!